For a lot of people the Christmas Party can be a nightmare. A discomfort or even terror zone can result from being faced with a crowd of faces that you don’t know very well. Frightened that you’ll attract attention for being “shy”, you can either risk turning red and being tongue tied or even worse – gabble on about nothing – without pausing to think or listen.
Communication – whether talking too little or too much is a problem for shy people.
To be shy is to be afraid of people. This doesn’t mean that a person is shy in all their encounters with people. A person may be normally confident but shy with members of the opposite (or same) sex, in intimate situations.
A person may be a confident lecturer but extremely shy when giving a speech in public.
There are positive aspects of being shy too. A shy person can find pleasure in solitude; they may be able to research and work in a more concentrated way without distractions. Friendships tend to be longer lasting as friends are selected through a deeper level of trust. Shy people may have more inner resources for survival. Pinterest has some good material on this.
Being shy has happened to most of us in our lives. When it starts to impinge on the improvement in the quality of your life – either through being afraid of a job interview, an encounter with your boss, a presentation or a social encounter – then it’s best to find help. Max Your Voice may be able to help with your communication problem or we may be able to recommend someone who can. Call or email for a free consultation. +44(0) 20 85422777, email@example.com
Breathe out completely through the mouth and breath in through the nose for a count of three. Breathe out again completely through the mouth on a count of five and in again through the nose for a count of three….. Avoid the over rising of the chest and
Hum from low note to high note and back.
Exhale on “zzz” “vvv” “fff” “sss”
Takes sips of water throughout the day.
Eat mostly alkaline based food
Re-align your neck and back by standing up against a door or wall –
keep your chin down and your eye level straight ahead.
Breathe out completely by flopping over – with your pelvis
supported by a wall.
Sip warm water infused with two or three slices of raw ginger
Steam with hot water with sea salt added.
Suck a ricolo herbal lozenge.
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With Thanks to Phyllida Furse, Carol Fairlamb and Carrie Garrett
A few years back I was asked to give a talk for interpreters at a Conference in the City of London. There were highly successful interpreters and heads of departments of various universities also speaking. The Conference was aimed at giving working interpreters information and support on how best to maintain physical and mental well being while they were working on sensitive jobs.
Interpreters are highly trained academically but sometimes their need for more practical skills have not been met. At that time there wasn’t much training given to interpreters on how to handle the physical and mental rigors that come with the job. Much discussion was given over to methods of relaxation after a day of mental gymnastics and physical constriction. One highly successful interpreter believed that the Alexander Technique was the practice that had helped him the most. This technique guides your body and mind into a state of release. It is a fantastic technique for interpreters who can benefit so much from the released posture and mental relaxation. Many people use yoga exercises for relaxation – again an excellent form of tension release and those of you who practice meditation may have found it life changing.
My own specialty The Grotowski Technique, is a useful tool for using “on the job”. While relaxation exercises are part of the interpreters daily routine, Grotowski offers a way of dealing with sudden surges of stress sometimes connected with sensitive subject matter, that can trip the amygdala and open up the parts of the brain that deal with emotions. It can happen at any time to interpreters and the effort needed in dealing with the emotions, without letting them affect the voice and the ability to speak, is draining.
One interpreter explained that when she was 4 months pregnant and interpreting at a conference for orphaned children, she found herself choking on the words she was interpreting. The description of the conditions orphaned children lived in was too much for her to bear. Many would say that it was unprofessional of her – but how can we convey the meaning behind the words of the speaker if we don’t take in that meaning. Normally we are able to maintain a separation between the general (others) and the particular (ourselves) because the brain can separate the two however the Amygdala can allow our feelings to switch the parts of the brain that we’re using and an in certain circumstances can highjack our words. A practical understanding of how the voice works and how speech is made together with instruction on how to place the voice in different areas of the body for different effect, is a helpful tool to any interpreter and recommended by the ITI.
Scurrilous, Scandal- Mongering, Scoundrel – 18th century words that made it back into political talk during the last election of the Mayor of London. Somehow these words worked and the attempts to make Sadiq Khan look like a threat to our democracy failed. With the campaign up to Brexit, any attempt at rhetoric was thrown to the wind and much of what was said by both sides was designed to terrify us into decision making. While we’ve known all along that all words that come from politicians have a political purpose what’s happening now is more sinister as Mark Thompson writes below:
“What happens when political language fails? When the rage and incomprehension boil over, and we run out of a common vocabulary and sufficient trust in each other’s words to be able to sit down and work through what unites and divides us?”
Clearly with the onset of the internet and the views that are expressed, we are in a place where our respect for politicians has hit a low. It’s as if we feel we’ve been left out and we are just subject to decisions made, uninformed of the bigger picture. No wonder the real scare-mongers are being listened to. There are still some great politicians out there, if and when they are allowed to speak – we need to listen to them and their rhetoric.
This fantastic piece of software – Siri, is a virtual assistant with a voice-controlled natural language interface that uses sequential inference and contextual awareness to help perform personal tasks for iOS users.
There are just a couple of drawbacks. The almost constant requests to update iOS can sometimes stop you from using your phone to make simple calls, send mail and texts. The other is that Siri does not always get the pronounciation right with names. This is not a problem for me – I like it when my surname is pronounced in 2 syllables as Parkez instead of the one syllable Parkes. Others are not so keen. Barbara Striesand had to point out to the H/O Apple that her surname is pronounced “Streisand with a soft ‘s’ like sand. Tim Cook has agreed to change the pronunciation on the next update.
The excitement of this year’s Olympic games is exhilerating. The commentaries are so good you feel as though you’re there and it’s fantastic that Britain has some amazing athletes winning medals that they really deserve. No one can doubt that all the contestants go through a massive training programme to get these medals – and it’s a great motivator to take on board if you run a business.
Olympic athletes can help business owners focus on their goals. Sally Gunnell, a major track title holder now runs a successful business in Corporate Health and Well Being. She acknowledges that rising above the competition is tough for businesses – especially for entrepreneurs. Competition is healthy – it’s what makes us tick and achieve better results, providing we don’t become swamped with unnecessary detail that can deter us from achieving our goals. Sally Gunnell recommends
By rapper and actor Riz Ahmed
(mixtape ‘Englistan’ is out now)
“The referendum has proved the need for young people to get out and get involved in shaping our politics, otherwise other people will shape it for them. We need to go further than Facebook activism and turn up to make a difference. We have more information at our fingertips and more ease of connection to like-minded people than ever before. If you’re passionate about something, you can share it with more people than ever. Of course you have to fight harder to make yourself heard above all the noise, but if you’re willing to be consistent and work hard, the barriers to reaching people are lower than ever. You can be heard.”
Sir Salman Rushdie is an advocate of memorising and speaking poetry and prose. He believes it enriches our relationship with language and I certainly go along with that. The rhythms of lines and words written for speaking out loud, echo in our heart and mind long after they’re spoken.
“It is a simple exercise that enriches the way you enjoy poems and enriches your relationship with language and once you have done it – it stays with you forever.” Salman Rushdie.
Anyone who’s learned songs and poems in a different language to their own – before even understanding the meaning – will know how it inspires you to enjoy making the sounds of the words and inspires you to find the meaning of the words.
Christine and the Queens – speaking in French in those very appealing clear French sounds, gets you listening and memorising.
Some rap artists are putting their message across in words delivered with fantastic rhythmic precision and defiance. Others like George the Poet are giving hope to people on the edge of depression.
A couple of lines learned and spoken just once a day can help lift your spirits and freshen you up.
Nonsense poetry like Jabberwocky is great for just beating out the sounds and making yourself and others laugh. The Foals words charge your imagination and take you to another land.
`Twas brillig, and the slithy toves
Did gyre and gimble in the wabe:
All mimsy were the borogoves,
And the mome raths outgrabe.
Now the wolf is knocking at my door
Bang-bangin’, ask for more
Stand here, we stand tall
You can move beyond these walls
Christopher Hampton, the writer of many of the best plays of his generation: Les Liaisons Dangereuses The philanthropist and Savages has made the point that our indifferent approach to learning languages has been fuelled by government policies that feed off the line that English is the only language needed. Hampton is a French and German speaker, he has said “It’s very sad how modern language departments have started closing down. It’s a great loss that French as a foreign language isn’t encouraged as it used to be.
Hampton’s translation of French playwright’s Florian Zeller’s The Truth transferred to Wyndham’s Theatre yesterday and runs until September 3rd.
Lyndsay Posner’s critically acclaimed original production at the Meunier Chocolate Factory transfers with the same cast.
“The first thing to do when learning an accent is to find a native speaker of the language. So if you want to learn a French accent, get hold of a French person.
The next step is to get your hands on a set text that covers all the consonant and vowel changes within a language.
There are three main texts used by voice coaches – Arthur the Rat, The Rainbow Passage and Comma Gets A Cure. You then ask your native speaker to read the text out loud while you make a recording.
When you listen back, mark down all the differences between their pronunciation of each word, each consonant and vowel, and the way you would say it.
Record the answers to two or three questions about things that interest them so they become animated and begin speaking fluidly. You could ask about the place where they are from, or where they like to go on holiday, or their childhood.
Listening back to a recording of their answers will also help you get to grips with their pronunciation, but most importantly it will allow you to hear differences in the rhythm and resonance of their speech.
As they speak, watch their articulators at work. How do their lips, cheeks, jaw, tongue and teeth move as they enunciate each word?
You will notice that Scottish and Russian people sound more throaty because their tongue comes up to the back palate and pushes the resonance back as they speak.
British Received Pronunciation seems to move forward straight from the lips like a dart because the articulation causes lots of forward placement.
But Australian accents can sound nasal because the mouth does not open far.
After looking at your native speaker, look at yourself in a mirror as you speak and note the differences in facial movement.
Think about the origins of the language. Sometimes the geography of an area can affect an accent. Texas is very flat, so the Texan accent is very flat. Wales is very hilly, so the Welsh accent is lyrical and rolling, like the hills.
Finally, try speaking some words and sentences of the language whose accent you are trying to master and see how the pronunciation tastes and feels in your mouth. Speaking the language can help you learn the accent, and vice versa.”