How We Construct Our Emotions

 

Lisa Feldman Barratt has written an excellent book: “How Emotions are Made” giving new insights into the emotions that we see and hear in the voices surrounding us. She writes that we construct our emotions so that we can understand the world around us. We then place an identifying “sticker” of an emotion on the experience which we then identify as an emotional recall. The book is fascinating as it gives new research into positive as well as negative emotions as activated by the amygdala. The understanding of the map of the brain and our emotions is growing. Real situations can give us conflicting emotions, but when we’re listening to actors or singers who have their emotions close to the surface then we are able to empathize and readily “feel” their emotions.  Now we know how Dr Chekov heard and saw and was able to write those amazingly raw scenes of conflicting emotions.
How Emotions are Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett is published by Macmillan

Lisa Feldman Barrett
Lisa Feldman Barrett

Confidence in your Voice

 

With so many talented young people emerging from the arts and sciences, we need to have accessible support services in place to help them.  Throughout the early part of their working life, it’s important that people have the confidence to overcome what every talented person faces – criticism.  From others and from themselves.

“One needs very strong ears to hear oneself freely criticized; and since there are few who can stand it without being stung, those who venture to perform this service for us give us a remarkable proof of their friendship.” Montaigne

Friends and family may want to help but there isn’t enough time to really mentor others when most people are already preoccupied with either their own career path or keeping a balance within the family. It is crucial at an early stage in your career,  to have someone to turn to for help and advice, someone who you can talk with freely.  This is why a mentor; a truly good mentor can change your life for the good.  Many young people opt to conform to values that they don’t necessarily believe in because they are afraid to offend others and don’t have the confidence to speak up for themselves.   This shows in your voice and gives others a message that you’re insecure rather than secure in your belief of your own talent.  The Prince’s Trust, that helped me when I first started Max Your Voice, has joined forces with L’Oreal in a campaign to help build young people’s confidence.  Dame Helen Mirren is backing the campaign and has some great advice for young (and old) women:
“Be free be liberated, be what you want to be.  It’s to do with liberation, not sexiness, that’s in the past.”

Helen Mirren
Helen Mirren

Ask yourself “What is it that I want?”
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How Not To Live In Suburbia – Annie Siddons

 

The imagery contained in How Not to Live in Suburbia production at the Soho Theatre is fantastic –  as is the accomplished performer/writer with  a great voice – Annie Siddons. The comedy starts with the crisis of her marriage break up or the sh** that hit her life as a result.  The subsequent move to Twickenham – Home of Rugby – gives rise to the Suburbia of the title. The reason for the move? – Her family of two children that can’t be in the show, so are represented by two small trees in pots.  The agony of leaving friends behind who live in enclaves of creativity and then being confronted by people with suburban perceptions and values is something that rang peals of laughter from the audience – yes we all know this one.  The sacking from the book club, the imaginary pass shown to get out of Twickenham and into town, the boyfriend, the drinking  and ….the depression.  The comedy and best acting comes through in the films that Annie Siddons made with Richard Dedomenici.  The hulking Walrus of Loneliness and Seal of Shame crowd in on her as she begins to sink into some suburban puddle of oblivion and loses the will to live let alone write.
The live stand up with her younger alter ego (you can tell by the big hair wig) played by Nicki Hobday, is where the depression becomes more depressing.  One of the small tree children gets ill with an ongoing condition and it’s sad and the sadness begins not to get funny any more.  It becomes reminiscent of Brené Brown and her talks on shame and vulnerability.
At the end Annie Siddons gave out badges and I got one saying “I love f**cking London”, so I perhaps got it horribly wrong in wanting to give her a hug and recommend a good counsellor.

Annie Siddons - How not to Live in Suburbia
Annie Siddons – How not to Live in Suburbia

Being Shy at Party Time

 

For a lot of people the Christmas Party can be a nightmare.  A discomfort or even terror zone can result from being faced with a crowd of faces that you don’t know very well.  Frightened that you’ll attract attention for  being “shy”, you can either risk turning red and being tongue tied or even worse – gabble on about nothing – without pausing to think or listen.
Communication – whether talking too little or too much is a problem for shy people.
To be shy is to be afraid of people.  This doesn’t mean that a person is shy in all their encounters with people.  A person may be normally confident but shy with members of the opposite (or same) sex, in intimate situations.
A person may be a confident lecturer but extremely shy when giving a speech in public.
There are positive aspects of being shy too.  A shy person can find pleasure in solitude; they may be able to research and work in a more concentrated way without distractions.  Friendships tend to be longer lasting as friends are selected through a deeper level of trust.  Shy people may have more inner resources for survival. Pinterest has some good material on this.

Being shy has happened to most of us in our lives.  When it starts to impinge on the improvement in the quality of your life – either through being afraid of a job interview, an encounter with your boss, a presentation or a social encounter  – then it’s best to find help.  Max Your Voice may be able to help with your communication problem or we may be able to recommend someone who can.   Call or email for a free consultation.  +44(0) 20 85422777, info@maxyourvoice.com
shy-person

Voice Care with British Voice Association

 

Breathe out completely through the mouth and breath in through   the nose for a count of three.  Breathe out again completely through the mouth on a count of five and in again through the nose for a count of three…..  Avoid the over rising of the chest and
shoulders.
Hum from low note to high note and back.
Exhale on “zzz” “vvv” “fff” “sss”
Takes sips of water throughout the day.
Eat mostly alkaline based food
Re-align your neck and back by standing up against a door or wall –
keep your chin down and your eye level straight ahead.
Breathe out completely by  flopping  over – with your pelvis
supported by a wall.
Sip warm water infused with two or three slices of raw ginger
Steam with hot water with sea salt added.
Suck a ricolo herbal lozenge.

If you have prolonged vocal problems go to the page below to find your nearest Voice Clinic
http://www.britishvoiceassociation.org.uk/free_voice-clinics.htm

With Thanks to Phyllida Furse, Carol Fairlamb and Carrie Garrett

Frances Parkes at CIOL workshop
Frances Parkes at CIOL workshop

A Support System for Interpreters

 

A few years back I was asked to give a talk for interpreters at a Conference in the City of London.  There were highly successful interpreters and heads of departments of various universities also speaking.  The Conference was aimed at giving working interpreters information and support on how best to maintain physical and mental well being while they were working on sensitive jobs.

Interpreters are highly trained academically but sometimes their need for more practical skills have not been met.   At that time there wasn’t much training given to interpreters on how to handle the physical and mental rigors that come with the job.  Much discussion was given over to methods of relaxation after a day of mental gymnastics and physical constriction.  One highly successful interpreter believed that the Alexander Technique was the practice that had helped him the most.  This technique guides your body and mind into a state of release.  It is a fantastic technique for interpreters who can benefit so much from the released posture and mental relaxation.  Many people use yoga exercises for relaxation – again an excellent form of tension release and those of you who practice meditation may have found it life changing.

My own specialty The Grotowski Technique, is a useful tool for using “on the job”.  While relaxation exercises are part of the interpreters daily routine, Grotowski offers a way of dealing with sudden surges of stress sometimes connected with sensitive subject matter, that can trip the amygdala and open up the parts of the brain that deal with emotions.  It can happen at any time to interpreters and the effort needed in dealing with the emotions, without letting them affect the voice and the ability to speak, is draining.

One interpreter explained that when she was 4 months pregnant and interpreting at a conference for orphaned children, she found herself choking on the words she was interpreting.  The description of the conditions orphaned children lived in was too much for her to bear.  Many would say that it was unprofessional of her – but how can we convey the meaning behind the words of the speaker if we don’t take in that meaning. Normally we are able to maintain a separation between the general (others) and the particular (ourselves) because the brain can separate the two however the Amygdala can allow our feelings to switch the parts of the brain that we’re using and an in certain circumstances can highjack our words.  A practical understanding of how the voice works and how speech is made together with instruction on how to place the voice in different areas of the body for different effect, is a helpful tool to any interpreter and recommended by the ITI.

Recommended reading – Goldman – Emotional Intelligence

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How the brain can hijack your thoughts and words.
How the brain can hijack your thoughts and words.

Scurrilous, Scandal-Mongering, Scoundrel

 

Scurrilous, Scandal- Mongering, Scoundrel – 18th century words that made it back into political talk during the last election of the Mayor of London.  Somehow these words worked and the attempts to make Sadiq Khan look like a threat to our democracy failed. With the campaign up to Brexit, any attempt at rhetoric was thrown to the wind and much of what was said by both sides was designed to terrify us into decision making.   While we’ve known all along that all words that come from politicians have a political purpose what’s happening now is more sinister as Mark Thompson writes below:
“What happens when political language fails?  When the rage and incomprehension boil over, and we run out of a common vocabulary and sufficient trust in each other’s words to be able to sit down and work through what unites and divides us?”
Clearly with the onset of the internet and the views that are expressed, we are in a place where our respect for politicians has hit a low.  It’s as if we feel we’ve been left out and we are just subject to decisions made, uninformed of the bigger picture. No wonder the real scare-mongers are being listened to. There are still some great politicians out there,  if and when they are allowed to speak – we need to listen to them and their rhetoric.

William Pitt the Younger 1759-1806
William Pitt the Younger
1759-1806

Siri needs help with pronouncing your Name

 

This fantastic piece of software – Siri, is a virtual assistant with a voice-controlled natural language interface that uses sequential inference and contextual awareness to help perform personal tasks for iOS users.
There are just a couple of drawbacks.  The almost constant requests to update iOS can sometimes stop you from using your phone to make simple calls, send mail and texts.  The other is that Siri does not always get the pronounciation right with names.  This is not a problem for me – I like it when my surname is pronounced in 2 syllables as Parkez instead of the one syllable Parkes.  Others are not so keen.  Barbara Striesand had to point out to the H/O Apple that her surname is pronounced “Streisand with a soft ‘s’ like sand.  Tim Cook has agreed to change the pronunciation on the next update.

Barbra Streisand
Barbra Streisand

Olympic Athletes Can Help Business Owners Focus on Their Goals

 

The excitement of this year’s Olympic games is exhilerating.  The commentaries are so good you feel as though you’re there and it’s fantastic that Britain has some amazing athletes winning medals that they really deserve.  No one can doubt that all the contestants go through a massive training programme to get these medals – and it’s a great motivator to take on board if you run a business.

Olympic athletes can help business owners focus on their goals.  Sally Gunnell, a major track title holder now runs a successful business in Corporate Health and Well Being.   She acknowledges that rising above the competition is tough for businesses – especially for entrepreneurs.  Competition is healthy – it’s what makes us tick and achieve better results, providing we don’t become swamped with unnecessary detail that can deter us from achieving our goals.  Sally Gunnell recommends

  • Visualise your Goal and the Steps to Achieve it
  • Motivate Yourself and Your Team
  • Surround Yourself with the Right Team
  • Stay Grounded to Adapt to Change
    Nicola Adams - gold medal winner
    Nicola Adams – gold medal winner

    Sally Gunnell
    Sally Gunnell

Make Your Voice Heard

 

By rapper and actor Riz Ahmed
(mixtape ‘Englistan’ is out now)

“The referendum has proved the need for young people to get out and get involved in shaping our politics, otherwise other people will shape it for them.  We need to go further than Facebook activism and turn up to make a difference.  We have more information at our fingertips and more ease of connection to like-minded people than ever before.  If  you’re passionate about something, you can share it with more people than ever.   Of course you have to fight harder to make yourself heard above all the noise, but if you’re willing to be consistent and work hard, the barriers to reaching people are lower than ever.  You can be heard.”

Riz Ahmed
Riz Ahmed

The Voice, Speech and Communication Specialists